I don’t know about you, but choosing to die is not my first choice. In fact in almost every scenario that comes to mind I am choosing the path that provides at least a glimmer of hope of survival. Our sense of self preservation is strong. But Jesus preached and modeled something radically different than self preservation. In Matt 16:25 He said, “For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for Me will find it.” As we follow His life we see that Jesus willingly lived in obedience to God’s plan and for our salvation which included dying to His self. As a professed believer and follower in Jesus it is of paramount importance that I come to grips with what Jesus is asking me to do.
Dying to self is the foundational act of faith. Truly living a life where Jesus is Lord means that we are not. We, or at least I, are selfish creatures. In most cases my world revolves around what I see, perceive, and deem appropriate. Although I am loathe to admit it, I often want what I want and I will act in accordance with that desire much of the time. Judging by the world around me that is true of most people. When I committed my life to Christ, when I gave Him my life, I recognized that this innate selfishness was liable to be a problem. But I trusted Jesus to do something about that. As I look back over 30+ years of following Him I can see much progress yet there are still times that the old selfish man rises up. Thankfully God has given us the Holy Spirit to help us with this. Our response is to die to self daily and trust Him to help us. And He does.
Jesus modeled dying to self literally. Not everyone is called to willingly put themselves into situations where physical death is the likely outcome, but that is part of what we sign up for. As I mentioned yesterday history is full of the faithful losing their lives at the hands of despots and tyrants who war against the one true God and His people. Today as I write this many believers will perish at the hands of ISIS followers. My heart hurts for them and I am moved to intercession. We also have a dear family that we love and support that have been ministering in central Asia now for 11 years. They recently relocated to Turkey and are beginning a new work among the Muslim population there. Please join me in praying for God’s protection, grace, and mighty power upon all those in this part of the world.
In the Garden of Gethsemane Jesus prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.” Mt 26:39. I have prayed something resembling the first part of that prayer many times… “Lord get me out of this bad or unpleasant situation.” That is not dying to self though. Dying to self is the entirety of Jesus’ prayer… a request for another option other than the obvious, but total submission to the Father’s plan and purpose.
Because Jesus submitted to the Father’s will He did have to suffer an agonizing night and day of torture, humiliation, crucifixion, and death. However, He also purchased my forgiveness and forgiveness for anyone who trusts in Him. He also launched the Church to proclaim the truth of reconciliation with God through faith in Him. He broke the power of hell and the grave as He proved that heaven is our final home and the grave is just a doorway into larger life.
I don’t know about you, but I get pumped up when I think about what Jesus has done for me and for you. Before I close I want to flesh out a little more what dying to self looks like for us. Let’s get practical. I think the fifth chapter of Ephesians is a good place to start.
For husbands it means cherishing your wife, listening to her, working hard to understand her needs and then striving to meet them. In the list of priorities after you wife would be your children. These come first – before the man-cave, guys night out, or your pet project. I’m not saying that those fun things can’t happen, but they have to be down the priority list and only occur when others are considered and acted upon first. I have to laugh because I have handled this in every way imaginable and most of them have NOT been the right way. To do these things for your wife and children, but be secretly pouting for the guy things, is not dying to self. Time spent with the Lord asking and allowing Him to instill in us the desire to love and cherish our family is how we get to the place we can do this right.
Wives dying to self really comes down to a very simple word – submission. I know that opens a can of worms and I am not going to take the time to chase and catch them all. Staying simple, Jesus is your Lord as a believer. You are to submit to Him just as your husband is to submit to Him. To the extent you can do so without violating the specific leading of the Lord in His Word, you are to live in harmony under the leadership of your husband. Just like the husband who must give up his will to seek the Lord’s will first and then serve you and your children, so too you must dwell in your prayer closet with the Father to have His heart and attitude in this.
I can think of dozens of scenarios and situations and I am sure you can think of many unique to your life. In every case the right path is similar.
It begins with a vibrant relationship with the Father through consistent, constant prayer and reading of the Word of God.
It is undergirded by the consistent petition, “Lord make me more like you.”
It progresses through consistently asking and acting upon the thought, “what is best for the other person.”
It is solidified by celebrating the joy and blessings in the lives of others.
It finds it’s rest in thankfulness to the Father for allowing you to be an agent of His grace.
And along the way, without ever focusing upon yourself or your wants, you will find yourself blessed with peace, joy, love, and a deepened faith in the One who loves us more than we can ask or imagine.
Be blessed and be a blessing today my friend.
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